Raising Successful Children
There are many aspects to being a good parent, but the key to raising well-balanced children to adulthood, is ensuring that you take care of yourself first.
This means that you eat well, exercise daily, and get enough sleep. It also means that you learn how to deal with your stress and anger in healthy ways.
Kids hear and see everything. And although we tend to believe they are resilient, they can harbor negative self-images of themselves for the rest of their lives.
It's not always easy to slow down and think about the way we talk to and treat our children.
Telling your children that they are lazy and stupid, making promises you can't keep, or not spending quality time with them can cause them to grow up with warped worldviews. Not only does their self-esteem suffer, they have a difficult time keeping a job, and lack the social skills necessary to be successful.
Adjusting your parenting skills now can mean the difference between successful adults and those who find themselves struggling with mental issues later on.
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Nadine Burke Harris
Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer. An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on.
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It's not easy maintaining a positive attitude. Life happens. Work, family, relationships, and interacting with different and difficult people on a daily basis can shape the way we see the world. If we can see the world as mostly good, chances are we will have a more positive attitude.
Not only does our attitude affect our lives, but those around us. Negativity is like a contagious disease that spreads to each person, and if we are not careful, we can become negative, too.
Encouraging others to find the silver lining in a bad situation, lending an ear, or offering advice (when asked, of course) can help, but sometimes all we can do is distance ourselves from those who are perpetually negative.
We all have days when we may not feel our best, but if it lasts more more than a day, you may need to look at what is going on in your life and adjust according.
Here are a few other ways you can maintain a positive attitude, especially when life hands you lemons:
1. Take responsibility for your life. Being happy is a choice. Some people seek attention by turning on the "poor me's," but what it does is rob you of your self-esteem by putting you in a victim role. You can do something about it. You have the power.
2. Smile. Smiling gives us an instant attitude boost. It makes us more approachable, and like negativity, is also contagious.
3. Change your thoughts. When you are having a stressful moment and you feel like you want to lash out at everyone around you, take a moment and think about all the wonderful things in your life. Gratitude is a great way to focus on the good, instead of the bad.
4. Find your purpose. Everyone has a purpose, but the trick is figuring out that that is. Once you do, you can channel your energy into something positive.
5. Watch what you say. Many of us often say things without thinking, and words, once spoken, can't be taken back. When we hurt others, we feel bad, and when we feel bad, we become ashamed, which only makes things worse. That guilt not only makes us feel bad about ourselves, but it affects our attitude, as well. And how can we lift others up when we feel bad?
We don't live in a bubble; what we do affects others, and that includes our attitude. In the words of Maya Angelou, "If you don't like something, change it. And if you can't change it, change your attitude."
It can be done. Like anything else, it all depends on you attitude.